The Art of Loving Yourself

Proper Attention

Taking care of yourself and being cautious towards your own wishes and desires is something we often forget, but if we all paid more attention to how we’re feeling, we’d be calmer and at peace with ourselves. Making yourself happy is, luckily, a simple process – all you need is an hour or two a day to what you want. If you’re lacking ideas how to do so, here are a few suggestions that might point you in the right direction.

Proper massage

Getting a massage by a professional is one of the best feelings in the world and something you should definitely do at least once a month. This is also an extremely effective way to relax and heal your body, mind and soul at the same time, but you can never know how truly amazing it feels until you’ve done.

There are lots of styles of massages you can explore – Thai and Balinese massages are quite popular in Southeast Asia, for instance, but you can also try deep tissue and relaxation massage as well. Keep in mind that this idea has a therapeutic effect on your body, too, so give it a try.

Proper skincare

Unlike women, this is something men usually don’t take seriously and are often uninterested in maintaining skin and hair, but it’s still one of the ways to show your body respect. Investing in proper skincare and grooming doesn’t have to be too expensive nor too extravagant, so start with just a couple of reliable products and see how they work for you.

After you’ve noticed their positive effect on your face, hands, forehead and beard, you can continue exploring more options and expand your skincare and grooming techniques. In just a couple of weeks, you’ll look much younger and feel much better.

Proper food

Your body really is a temple and should be treated like one. Eating junk food and relying on poor dietary choices is definitely the worst idea in the world and a sure path towards diabetes, obesity, cardiac arrest and other serious life-threatening illnesses.

If you, however, choose a different path and pack your diet with seafood, things are going to change for the better. Tracking down a place that offers proper seafood isn’t easy, but you’ll definitely be able to find your favorite seafood restaurant in Sydney – or, for that matter, in any other town! Good seafood is hard to find, so once you’ve located a great place, visit it as frequently as possible.

Proper flaws

Embracing other people’s flaws is quite easy because you love them for who they are and wouldn’t dare to change even the smallest thing about them. Nevertheless, have you tried doing the same thing with your own self for a change? We all have flaws, and that’s only natural, but what isn’t is beating yourself up over them – you should either accept yourself the way you are or try to work things out any way you can.

Accepting your imperfections and weaknesses is the only way to true happiness and the minute you do so, you’ll feel better – even when you look in the mirror and see that you’ve gained or lost weight, grew a funny beard or have been sporting an unbecoming hairdo. You’ll see that these are the things that make the real you and welcoming them into your life again is going to help you overcome your insecurities and doubts.

Proper time off

Everyone needs some alone time every once in a while, regardless of their sex, age and relationship status. From single people ready to mingle to those who are married and with children, we could all benefit from a little time off now and then – but not too much, though, or we’ll turn into a bunch of loners.

This is a moment for you to collect your thoughts, make plans for the future, do something you normally don’t have time for or simply relax and take a nap. Ultimately, this alone time will make you more relaxed and you’ll be ready to get back to your daily lives stronger and happier than you’ve been before, so find time for yourself and give yourself the attention you truly deserve.

After all, no matter how effective and positive these methods are, they aren’t the only ways to show yourself some respect and care. Some of the other things you might want to consider doing include spending more time with your friends, going to places you’ve never been to before, picking up interesting and exciting hobbies, drinking more water and eating more healthy food, as well as coming to terms with the dreams and plans you had back in the day, but haven’t had the time for them yet. Trust us, nothing’s perfect and you can’t realize all your potentials at the same time, so relax and give yourself a break.

Peter is a health writer at Essential Men's Clinic blog. Follow Peter on Twitter for more tips.

Essential oils for men




Most men would consider essential oils girly and not masculine. Truth is, essential oils do not have to be feminine, many essential oils have a more masculine scent with earthy or musky tones. As well as smelling great there is an incredible range of therapeutic benefits contained in essential oils that target a man' specific needs. It would be a shame for men to ignore these benefits because of a perceived femininity.

Essential oils are an effective health and wellness alternative and have been used throughout recorded history for a wide variety of wellness applications. They’re preventative and healing medicines for treating everything from colds, muscle aches and stress to life threatening conditions, such as heart disease and cancer. Choosing the right essential oils for men, can improve your health and help relieve muscle aches and pains when used for therapeutic massaged.

There’s a variety of ways men can enjoy the benefits of essential oils, but be careful as all 100% pure essential oils are very concentrated, so you never want to swallow the oil, unless your health practitioner recommends you do so.


Men's Post-Workout Recovery
Essential oils are ideal for helping to restore muscles and joints after sports, workouts or general exercise. Lavender and peppermint essential oils are popular pain relievers for aching muscles and general use. Peppermint essential oil relieves pain and improves blood circulation to the area, reducing the inflammation that causes the pain. Similarly, the lavender essential oil generally used to relieve headaches and neck pain also helps reduce stress and anxiety that may well be the primary cause of these painful conditions.

Men's Skin Care
Many essential oils contain properties that make them very useful for the skin. For years, people have used tea tree oil to help care for their skin. Tea tree oil is antiseptic and antifungal and is safe to treat insect bites and stings. It also works wonders on skin blemishes and wrinkles. Tea tree oil can also be used on the scalp to eliminate dandruff and irritation as well as toenail fungus.

Men's Hair Care
Hair loss is one of the most common problems in men worldwide. Certain essential oils can stimulate the hair follicles and increase circulation to the scalp, which contributes to hair regrowth and may slow hair loss. By massaging a combination of essential oils, such as Thyme, Cedarwood, Lavender, Rosemary, Jojoba and Grapeseed into the scalp regularly over a period of months, you can treat hair thinning and prevent any further loss.

Men's Libido Booster
The buzz about natural aphrodisiacs has been around since the dawn of time. Still to this day, men are always looking for natural ways to increase their sexual energy. Sometimes, to enjoy sexual contact at its peak, you have to restore the mental balance, get rid of the stress and produce some endorphin’s by eating the right foods and regular exercise. However, you can also increase or awaken your desire and sex drive by using certain essential oils. It is much more common for men today with mild erectile dysfunction to seek a holistic or alternative approach. Essential oils can reduce stress and elevate mood, which can promote increased feelings of sensuality and sexual energy. Some essential oils that are said to have aphrodisiac qualities are: Lavender, Clary Sage, Jasmine and Cedarwood.

Prostate Health
Prostate conditions are among the most common and worrying male health issues and essential oils can help. Health benefits have included reducing inflammation and destroying illnesses that cause bacteria. These are some of the most common causes of prostate problems. Certain oils are said to have a very positive effect on prostate health and have been used successfully by men according to medical reports. The best essential oils for prostate health are considered to be: Frankincense oil (reduces inflammation), Rosemary oil (reduces DHT levels and supports prostate health) and Myrrh oil (fights pathogens).